The little assumptions that drive friends apart start really small. "She doesn't want to hear about the thing consuming my life right now; I shouldn't bug her." "She's too busy now." "She has other friends; she won't want to talk to me." Until eventually it's, "I don't know how to talk to her anymore."
And maybe you were right in some early, little assumptions, but also, maybe someone is freezing behind a door you built out of legos.
I wish me-8-months-ago was better at checking in on friends and making absolutely sure that I annoyed them instead of leaving them in the cold.
But you know what's cool? The conversation that breaks through that door.
Both of you hurt. And there's a lot of letting go being understood to understand, a lot of being mis-judged to forgive, a lot of "you're more important than this." There's grief for the time lost, but in the middle of everything that's bleak and hurting, there's hope. There's connection. You're talking again. You're going to be friends.
I'm challenging you to write a reconciliation, but if you have a lego-brick door, forget this prompt, forget this blog, forget writing a reconciliation and please go live one. People are too important to leave in the cold.
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